How to Discover your FLAVOR Love Language

Like the five love languages that are used to express love with one another — words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch — is it possible that we have a unique flavor love language as well? Do we each have a primary flavor love language that when expressed makes us feel loved? 

When we taste a food or sip a wine (or any beverage), we use our singular sense of taste. The taste receptor cells in our taste buds experience five basic tastes — sweet, salty, sour, bitter, umami (also described as savory or meaty). However, to our brains, taste is actually a fusion of our senses — not only taste, yet sense of sight, smell, and touch or texture. The combination of these senses create what we know as flavor.  

So, back to our question — is it possible that we each have a flavor love language that when experienced makes us feel loved? I like to think so.

Knowing your or your loved ones most pleasing tastes — sweet, salty, sour, bitter, umami — combined with knowing one’s most pleasurable sights, smells, and touch or textures — can create a meal that makes them feel loved through their very own flavor love language. 

How do you Discover One’s FLAVOR Love Language?


What are your favorite tastes? Sweet, like juicy, red strawberries, ripe figs, or a gooey, chewy chocolate chip cookie. Salty, like oysters, nuts, olives, or french fries. Sour, like pickles, fermented foods, or lemons. A combination of sweet and sour, like sweet and sour chicken or umami, like sushi or slow cooked ribs with barbecue sauce. Maybe bitter, such as a rich piece of dark chocolate or bitter vegetables like endive, broccoli, or roasted brussel sprouts. 


What smells are most pleasurable to you? Aromas can spark feel good emotions that make one feel comforted and surrounded by love. An aromatic dish that restores good memories of childhood or a dish from a time you shared an unforgettable meal with someone, can be a pleasing nostalgic experience. I love the smell of oregano as it reminds me of my Nonna’s delicious Italian cooking. 


What colors or shapes do you like? Red, like chili pepper or strawberries. Orange like turmeric or bell pepper. Green like leafy lettuce or asparagus. White like oysters or popcorn. How you set the table can arouse the sight sense. In my post on Setting the Table for Love, I talk more about this aspect. Sight plays a big part in how we decide if we like a certain food or beverage.


Are you moved by touch and texture? The sensation of hot and spicy like curry or salsas. Hot or cold foods (or both) like a hot, gooey chocolate brownie with vanilla bean ice cream and crunchy nuts on top. Slippery like oysters. Soft like custard or tiramisu or mashed potatoes. Chewy like chocolate chip cookies. 


When love is present, we can experience a heightened awareness of our senses. We all have a desire to feel loved. Love brings vulnerability, honesty, transparency, and safety to the table. Love at the table, combined with flavor, enhances everyday life, arousing our senses as a flavor LOVE language. Watch our YouTube channel about How to Discover your Flavor Love Language. 

If you are softer than before they came, you have been loved.”

— Nayyirah Waheed

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